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Couples coaching that meets you both.
Private, tailored work for two people, built around the Enneagram and the instincts underneath it, for the patterns that quietly shape how you love, how you clash, and how you find your way back to each other.
Book a consultationThe work
This is private couples coaching with Aaron, shaped entirely around the two of you.
It is separate from our live Enneagram and Relationships workshop, which is a group class taught on Zoom. Here there is no curriculum to keep pace with and no room full of other couples, only your relationship, looked at closely and with care.
Most couples arrive with the same quiet question underneath the surface complaints, why the same argument keeps returning no matter how well they understand each other. We start there, with the real pattern rather than the latest version of the fight.
What we look at
The pattern underneath the friction.
Every couple is really a meeting of two whole systems, each with its own type, its own fears, and its own way of reaching for safety and love. We look at how your types speak and hear differently, what quietly sets each of you off, and how the story you each tell yourself about the other is often a story about your own pattern.
Underneath type sits instinct, the self-preservation, social, and sexual drives that shape chemistry and friction more than most couples realize. Two people can share the same type pairing and have entirely different relationships depending on how their instincts stack and collide. We map that, so the friction starts to make sense, and so repair becomes something you can do on purpose rather than something you stumble into.
The aim is to understand the difference rather than smooth it away, so you can meet each other from clarity rather than from the old reflex.
How it works
Sessions are held on Zoom, with both partners present, and are paced to what your relationship needs rather than to a fixed program. Some couples come for a season of focused work, others for an occasional recalibration. The simplest place to begin is a free thirty-minute consultation, where the three of us can talk through what you are hoping for and see whether the work is a fit.
Begin
A free thirty-minute consultation.
The simplest place to start is a conversation, the three of us together. We will talk through what you are hoping for and see whether working together is a fit, with no pressure either way.
Book your consultationYour coach is Aaron Addonizio.
Also with Empathy Architects: one-on-one coaching, the live Enneagram and Relationships workshop, and typing sessions with Maeve.
Empathy Architects is neurodivergence-affirming and LGBTQIA2S+ affirming, committed to a space where all identities, ages, abilities, and histories are genuinely welcome.
Empathy Architects provides coaching services. Our coaches are not licensed therapists, psychologists, or medical professionals, and coaching does not replace care from a licensed provider. If you are dealing with serious mental health concerns, please seek support from a licensed professional.
